Dating

Two kids (in their early 20's) at work are actively dating. One dates mainly because he's bored; the other dates because he's ready to settle down. How can I tell?

The first one was mortified when he heard that hubby and I moved in together after a month, "But he'll be there all the time!!!" Um.. that's kinda the idea of getting married.

The other looks upset, exhausted, disappointed, "I just want to find that person whom I can go home to every night."

And ladies, that's the difference between the guy who's ready and the one who's not.

And if I have to say what I regret doing wrong while dating... that is I gave waaaaaay too much benefit of doubt. So here's my advice for those who are still in the (online dating) game:- if you are seriously looking, life is short. Know your list of criteria that you look for and know your deal breakers. Don't cheat yourself thinking that he/she will change or that you can live with it. You can't. You are just planting the seed for problems/miseries later on. Make sure you have enough in common with the person, and also enough differences. And, most importantly, your fundamental believes/values have to be the same. Should you see any red lights/deal breakers during any dates. Next!